Now why do I need to write about something that has been addressed a hundred times before? Well, this time it is personal and unique to me. This time it has touched home in a profound way and I simply must share it.
I had the privilege of knowing a most caring, kind, generous, spiritual woman and she was my best friend and soul journeyer. My experiences with her in the last weeks of her life will forever be imprinted on my soul.
As a Therapist and Intuitive Life Consultant I am very aware of the stages of death and dying, and over the years I have had opportunities to sit with people in their process. My heart was with them as I watched and listened as each person came to terms with this one inevitable journey.
However unique their experiences were, the stages and the pleas were the same.
“This can't be happening, not to me!”
“Why me? It's not fair!”
“Just let me -----.!”
“I'll do anything for -----!”
“I will give my -------!”
“It's going to be okay!”
“I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it!"
If my friend ever went through any of these stages she never showed them to me. We were close, and over the years shared the most intimate aspects of our lives. If she were distressed, surely I would know it, or she would tell me.
When I or anyone walked into her room, she greeted us with her wonderful smile and we could tell she was happy to see us. Her concerns were about our well being rather than hers, which was so typical of Sue.
As spiritual beings having these human experiences we often go through life with all its challenges and loose site of who we truly are, or why we are here. If we are fortunate to have just one person who is glad we are here on the planet, one person who truly sees us, can make all the difference in the world. For me, Sue was this one person. She saw me and supported me in all my endeavors, and, many times offered me a safety net.
The last day and hours with her were very different than any other time I have ever been in her presence. This day she looked at me and for the first time I was unnerved.
Her eyes pierced into and through mine and though I might have wanted to look away I could not, would not. Something was happening that I may never experience again and I stood naked in the experience. She saw my soul and I saw hers. What ever I might have thought or imagined about Sue’s life no longer held truth. She stood naked, not clocked in her life here on earth but naked in sweet innocence and surrender, Sue had stepped into her god-self, her true self, and I saw her and her life in a new light.
I was certain however painful it was for me to let her go, I knew my friend had completed all that she had come to do and was ready to go home.
This moment will be embedded in my soul forever and because of her, what ever I might have thought about my own life has changed, I now see it differently.
Her life and legacy will live on in my life and all the thousands of people she touched. Because we have known her we are spiritually richer people. I wonder how many others called her Spiritual Sister!
With dignity Sue left this plane December 21, 2008, a Winter Solstice.