Weekly Tidbit: Desire

[Charly Hill]

Ever really wanted something, wanted it bad, and got it but found that once you had it, it didn't satisfy the way you thought it would? And then you wanted something else. Or maybe there is something that you really want that you just can't seem to get no matter what you do. Or you do get it, but no matter how much of it you have, you want more? You just "Can't Get No Satisfaction". What is it about our desires that can set us up to feel like we don't get what we need?

Martia Nelson, in her book, Coming Home, wrote that "Beneath the desire for all things and all qualities of experience, inner and outer, lies the desire to discover your true nature". Perhaps the shiny Mercedes, the account full of money, and the new relationship don't fully satisfy because they are the desires of the ego, the part of our personality that wants to look and feel good in the physical world. Some people call them superficial wants, but I think it is more that they are symbols that feed our ego, and since we are more than our ego they do not fulfill the whole of us. We also have a soul self, a true self, whatever language you want to use, another part that is spirit in nature. We are both spirit and body and we need to care for our dual nature. As long as we walk around in our physical bodies, we need our egos. When we become bodies of light, or spirit without physical form, or whatever happens next, then we can let go of egos. Until then they provide the boundaries we need in this physical world to keep our bodies alive, because, as Carolyn Myss once said, we cannot count on spirit to take care of the body. It is not that one is good and the other is bad; in our dual state, we need both, in balance, in supportive connection.

But what satisfies the ego will not satisfy the soul. It isn't really the car we want; we want comfort, to feel supported and safe, to feel loved and appreciated. This is the essence of desire, but what is outside can't really fill the inside. We can internalize and practice love and support for self, and that can be satisfying and healing, but the soul self recognizes that we are part of the whole, recognizes connection to all. How can we honor that, how can we satisfy that? Perhaps the most basic way to achieve connection is with love and all the emotions that are love based. Isn't it through love that we really feel our connection with another individual..... our child, our lover, our best friend? Joy, gratitude, and appreciation bring a quality of vibration to us that we all recognize as positive. Perhaps it is our true nature to be happy, to be loving, to be joyful, and we have just forgotten that, allowed our ego needs to become more important than our soul needs. What if we practice doing and thinking what brings us to the vibrational level of joy? We could start with this exercise: to allow ourselves to vibrate with gratitude for one beautiful thing you and I share at this moment: the ability to read.

Namaste,
Charly
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