Joyce Shafer's Blog – August 2011 Archive (4)

Self-sabotage is not about lack of willpower; so, you can stop beating yourself up about that one. What it is about may surprise you… and empower you.



Self-sabotage happens when you confront the need to move out of your comfort zone to improve your life experience or make a dream or goal happen. This is one reason willpower doesn’t work.



A few words about willpower…



Have you noticed how well trying to force willpower to work and last… works and lasts? It… Continue

There’s one particular thing that often stands in the way of any desired change; and, its partner has near-equal influence. Do you know what these are?



Consideration about the ignition switch for real change started with an email from an associate saying he was in a state of flux and it didn’t feel good. I emailed to check on him a week later and he responded that he’d made a decision to focus on one specific project he really wanted to engage, rather than all the opportunities being… Continue

How ready and able we are to beat up on ourselves! “I will not should on myself today” would benefit many as a new mantra.



A coaching client, who is a solo business person, provided lessons for many by sharing “should” challenges a number of people contend with in their personal, as well as professional lives. Three big “shoulds” showed up for her. You’ve probably experienced at least one of them, in one form or another.



Should 1 convinced her to sit at her computer all… Continue

Overwhelm blocks productivity, creativity, enjoyment… and even income! You can begin to improve this starting today.



In my article, “What Does Feeling Overwhelmed Really Mean?”, I mentioned I’d created a mind map. Since then, I revisited my mind map and removed a few things listed there. They’re terrific ideas, but they don’t really “crank my tractor.” This is something you might keep in mind, too.



I’m something of a list addict—okay, maybe list maniac is more like it.… Continue